Giving Up The Need To Control Can Save Your Relationship

The only thing that you have control of is your conscious thoughts. You have to become comfortable with uncertainty in order to be happy. Things will happen that we do not approve of. They will strike our egos. They will cause us pain and confusion. Our significant other will act out in ways we do not understand. Mostly, their actions will have nothing to do with us. Our need to control our world around us, will only drive us nuts!

Giving up the need to control to make ourselves feel safe and secured, takes work. We all have an innate need to feel safe and secure. Have you ever had an idea about something of how it would turn out and you get excited from the idea, but then it does not happen. You wanted the idea to become reality, but reality had a different design. When what you expected doesn't happen it sparks up all of the negative emotions.

The same thing happens in relationships, we all have an idea of what a relationship should look like, and when it does not turn out that way, we become disappointed in our partners; who we claim to love.

Love has its way of showing you that you must relinquish your desire to control because love has no limits. Control has limits. It has rules and boundaries. Love does not. So be careful when you say that you love someone. It will be tested through and through.

Most of what we claim is love is our desire to have our desires met through someone else because we are attracted to that person. What love really is is becoming the best person within yourself. That is all that love is. When you become the best version of yourself, there is no lack that you will wish to fulfill through another. A partner will complement your space, help you to grow, work with you, be there for you...but your need to control that person will only ruin the friendship. It will not help the companionship at all.

BEING CONTENT WITH "RIGHT NOW" WILL HELP WITH UNCERTAINTY.

We do not know where we are headed, what will happen, or the outcome. All we have is faith and the now. Being content right where you are while appreciating what is to come...whatever it may be... will change your thoughts to reflect love. Love gives up the need to control. Love just is.